It goes without saying that if you want to have the most productive, high vibing morning ever, it starts the night before.
But if you’re like me, then you probably start your morning…in the morning.
And for most people, mornings are filled with groggy coffee slurping, flipping on the TV, and then a comical rush to the front door while waving a shoe in one hand and a piece of PB toast in the other.
Here’s the thing, your morning sets you up for your day.
This is one of two times of the day when your subconscious mind is most open and your conscious mind isn’t fully awake yet.
Your subconscious mind is responsible for 90-95% of your awake decision making and you guessed it, it’s all done on autopilot.
Which means if you want to prime your subconscious mind for a successful, positive and all-around great day, the morning and what you choose to spend your time doing in the morning is one of the most important decisions of your day and most of us are doing it all wrong.
Look, if you want to have the best day ever, you’ve got to start off your day with all the best things ever so here are 5 things you need to stop doing in the morning.
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5 Morning Habits that Are Ruining Your Day
1. Making Your First Thought About All the Things You Have to Do Today
Picture this, your alarm screams out in some annoying 90’s song or some type of bell or whatever, you roll over and slap the snooze button and then roll around in bed going over every task you have to get done in painful detail.
By the time you do get out of bed, your mind is already consumed with stress.
Maybe even a little bit of frustration, confusion, annoyance or any number of emotions that don’t include gratitude, joy, or excitement.
When you wake up this way, you immediately put your body on alert.
Which means you’re in a reactive state within the first few minutes of your day.
And because you are in a reactive and alert state, your mind is searching for the problems of the day before the day has even begun.
This may sound like a good thing.
Get to the problems first and solve them.
But here’s what usually happens instead.
You start your day by looking for problems, putting out fires and basically telling your body to be on high alert, which creates stress. Stress creates more flight or fight signals to the brain which tells the body to only look at the problems and react accordingly.
Wherever your attention is you just see more evidence of.
Attention + stress + problems = seeing more problems.
What do to Instead:
The easiest way to start a great day is to start it with gratitude.
I already hear the groans but being grateful primes your brain to see all the things you do have in your life that are pretty amazing.
Which means you’ll just see more amazing incredible things throughout the day.
All it takes is making your first thought, “Thank you.”
You can also grab a copy of this book for a 28-day guide to gratitude.
2. Allowing Someone Else to Dictate your Day
You knew this was coming…
Don’t start your day looking at your phone and scrolling through social media.
Okay, so why? Why is this sooo “bad”?
Scrolling through social media, looking at your emails or allowing a physical human being bombard you with their feelings, thoughts, worries, etc. is giving away your power to decide how your day is going to go and instead putting it into someone else’s hands.
What usually happens when we scroll on social media?
Someone is complaining about something or sharing an unsolicited opinion.
When you begin your day looking at other people’s problems, they begin to become your own problems and you already know how that goes.
Not only that but spending too much time scrolling and getting sucked in can take time away from doing things that will actually help get your morning started on the right foot.
Like exercising, meditating or reading wealth consciousness books.
Your time is precious because once it’s gone, you can’t get it back.
Don’t waste it on someone else’s agenda.
What to Do Instead:
After waking up and giving gratitude for the day, set an intention for how YOU want the day to go. Yes, make yourself in charge of your day.
To set an intention simply state what you want to happen.
And stay off of social media and email until the afternoon or even after work or whatever you have going on that day.
3. Watching the News Or Reading the Paper
Unpopular opinion coming at you in three…two…one…
Watching the news or reading the paper in the morning is one of the best ways to ruin your day.
The news is filled with fear-based messaging, which again, creates stress in your body which sends a signal to your brain to look for problems.
This is really about how you want to feel during the day.
Your thoughts create an emotion, that emotion creates an action, that action creates your reality.
When you watch the news and it’s filled with fear, pain, and suffering, your emotions attached to that are going to be those of fear, pain, and suffering, which makes your actions based out of fear, pain, and suffering.
And when we act out of those emotions we don’t always get the best result.
I’m not saying you can’t stay up to date on what’s happening in the world. You can, but I would be very careful with what you spend your time watching and listening to.
If you want to make the biggest impact on the world, start with your state of being.
Your state of being is created by those thoughts, emotions, and actions.
Make sure they are not in a place of fear but in a place of love and what’s best for all involved.
You can read more about the ego vs. your intuition here.
4. Not Creating an Anchor
An anchor is an existing behavior that attaches to a new habit you are trying to create.
I also like to think of an anchor as a way to ground yourself before your day and you can even create an anchor that is the hardest thing you will do all day.
An anchor can be meditation, breathwork, reading, exercising, affirmations whatever else you want it to be.
The point is to create an anchor that sets you up for the day in a positive way.
It’s usually a way to get your body and mind primed for the day to begin and can take anywhere from 5 minutes to an hour.
When you don’t create an anchor and just jump into your day, your mind and body is still trying to catch to what is going on which just ends up creating more stress.
And nobody wants more stress in their life.
An example of a morning anchor routine could be:
- 7 am: Wake up & give gratitude
- 7:15 am: Quiet Meditation for 10 minutes
- 7:30 am: 30 Minutes of Exercise or movement
It’s whatever works for you, there is no right or wrong way to create an anchor but not having one can set you up to be more reactive, more stressed and have a lot less fun in life.
5. Being Reactive instead of Proactive
I know, I said most people start their mornings in the morning and not the night before but, if you really want to be as proactive as possible, you have to begin your morning the night before.
This means planning out your day so that you can be proactive for whatever the day brings.
Setting out habit triggers like putting your gym clothes next to your bed, or your podcast episode next to your sink where you brush your teeth and get ready for the day.
Your state of mind when waking up is of utmost importance which is why I’ve talked about it so much in the post.
Setting up your day the night before allows you to ease into your morning instead of running around with one shoe on and one shoe halfway across the yard.
If you’re starting your day playing defense, allowing everyone around you to dictate how to feel and what to think and reacting to everything that comes your way, you’re not going to have a great day which affects everyone else around you.
Small Steps Create Big Changes
How do you build a brick house?
By laying one brick at a time.
Seriously, small changes add up to big changes.
Start with the things that will make the biggest impact and then move on from there.
But remember, your best days are created in the morning so don’t underestimate the power of a solid morning routine.