Does the thought of failure stop you in your tracks?
Keep you up at night tossing and turning?
Leave you feeling unfulfilled?
What if I told you failure doesn’t actually exist?
You’re probably screaming at your phone right now about all the times you “failed” and maybe you’ve even clicked off already but if you’re still here, we’ve got to talk.
Below are 5 different ways you can reframe failure and actually manifest more success into your life.
How to Reframe Failure to Manifest More Success in Your Life
Before we take a deep dive into the hacks to help you reframe failure, I want to talk about why it’s so important to actually reframe it in the first place.
Basically, this just means, if you focus on failure, that’s all you will see.
Meaning, that’s all you will attract into your life which can be pretty heart wrenching and defeating.
Reframing the way you actually feel about failure will allow you to see it differently which will bring in more opportunities to help you be successful in whatever endeavors you wish.
1. Failure and Success are Two Sides of the Same Coin
What does that even mean??
Well, I had to Google it and it says, “If two things are two sides of the same coin, they are very closely related although they seem different.” (thank you for your input Google)
Success and failure are both inevitable and actually, if you really want to be successful, you’re going to have to “fail”.
Over and over and over again.
But we’ll get into that later.
Remember when I said failure doesn’t actually exist?
Well, it really doesn’t. It only exists based on your attention and perspective.
You could have two people selling oranges from a fruit shop. Both have the same goal, to sell 100 oranges.
One person sells 99 oranges and is frustrated because they feel like they failed in sales that day.
The other ends up selling 50 oranges but is thrilled!
It’s not about what actually happens or the end result, it’s about how you perceive the end result.
2. Failure Has No Meaning
Okay, this is another way to reframe failure based on your perspective but hear me out.
How many times have you felt awful and felt like a “failure” because something didn’t work out the way you planned?
Why would you think you’re a failure?
Here’s the thing, failure doesn’t actually mean anything besides the meaning that we give to it.
If failure means being a failure, that’s terrifying for us but to someone else, failure simply means what they tried didn’t work out so time to try something else.
If you truly want to reframe failure you have to change the meaning you are giving it.
Choose to make it mean nothing at all or see it as a lesson on what not to do.
The choice is yours.
3. The Faster you Fail the Faster You’ll Be Successful
I told you we’d get to this because it just sounds kinda ridiculous, doesn’t it?
But it actually holds quite a bit of truth.
Henry Ford, Albert Einstein, Steve Jobs, The Wright Brothers (okay no I’m just name dropping) all failed time and time again.
Seriously, they failed a LOT.
And not only that, everyone thought they were really nuts.
But they chose to see failure as a stepping stone to success instead of a reason to give up.
Life is filled with duality.
Light and dark.
Good and bad.
failure and success.
We would not know one without the other.
If we never “failed” we would never know what didn’t work.
The point is this, you have to first know what doesn’t work in order to fully know what does work and failure is part of that.
It’s about trying something, realizing it didn’t work and then trying something again…and again…and again…until boom, it works!
The faster you fail, the faster you’ll succeed.
Or I should say, the quicker you get up from “failing” the faster you’ll succeed.
4. What Other People Think of Your “Failures” Is None of Your Business
If you were the only human being living on an island…literally no one else around for MILES and you tried to build a hut out of mud and a palm tree and you “failed” at it, how much would it bother you?
Now pretend that same scenario played out but instead in front of 10 people or 50 or 100.
And they all told you that you had failed at the task at hand.
Then how would you feel?
Probably like a failure right?
So you really didn’t “feel like a failure” until someone else told you you were.
And they only saw what you did as a failure based on their own personal perspective as we talked about before.
Do you get where I’m going with this?
People’s opinions of your “failures” or your mistakes or whatever you want to call them has very little to do with you actually making a mistake and more to do with how they view failure.
Which is why it’s so important to simply throw their opinion out the window.
At least for this context anyway.
Because it really doesn’t matter what they think about what you’ve done, what matters is how you feel.
Don’t allow someone else’s opinion of you dictate how you feel about yourself.
If you find yourself looking to others for validation, I highly recommend reading this article.
5. Reframe Failure with Affirmations
I LOVE affirmations because they are incredibly powerful but they also feel really good.
Come on, you can’t tell me that saying “I am already successful” doesn’t feel better than, “I am a failure”.
Affirmations are a way to help reprogram your subconscious mind into finding what you desire instead of what you don’t desire.
You can use affirmations to help you view failure in a more positive light by saying things like:
- Success is in my hands
- I am always on the right path
- I am always winning
- My success is inevitable
These types of affirmations allow your subconscious mind to look for opportunities that will help you be successful instead of only looking for things that make you feel like you’ve failed.
Use these affirmations all day, every day and especially when you come across an undesired outcome.
Failure Exists Based on Your Perspective
The more attention you give to failure, the more you will see it and worse you will feel.
Choose to see it as another part of life, a lesson to be learned, what not to do or even as a part of or stepping stone of success.
It’s up to you to reframe failure and turn it into something that serves you.