If you want to change any aspect of your life you must first change your beliefs.
Because your beliefs create your reality.
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Life and the people, places, things, and situations in our lives are like a mirror and will reflect back to you whatever you believe to be true.
By changing our beliefs, we change our inner world which then changes our outer world.
If you’re sick of trying to change everything on the outside, reacting to your surroundings and not seeing the life-changing results you thought you would keep reading, this post is for you.
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1. How are your Beliefs Created?
Knowledge is power and simply understanding how our beliefs are created will already give us a leg up in how to actually begin to change them.
So what is a belief?
A belief is simply a thought/statement that is thought over and over and over and over again until we believe it to be true.
Beliefs can be created about anything and everything in our world.
I mean, there’s even a belief that things are “good” and “bad”, “evil” and “virtuous”.
A lot of our beliefs are all planted in our subconscious minds beginning with the people that raised us from the ages of birth-7 years old.
Then as we get older, our friends, family, and society provide us with more thoughts and feelings on things that eventually, when heard enough and thought about enough, turn into more beliefs.
“Fat is bad”, “carbs make you gain weight”, “weight training makes you look bulky”, “big lips are sexy”.
These beliefs tend to have emotions attached to them which is why they’re so easy for us to believe.
If we didn’t have some kind of emotional attachment to them, we wouldn’t believe them.
It’s like telling a 6’2 person that they’re really short…even if they’ve heard it their whole lives, chances are they don’t feel anything about that statement so they simply don’t believe it to be true.
The idea here is to remember, there are no “good” or “bad” beliefs, they just are and we get to decide if we want to keep them or if we want to let them go.
2. How to Identify Your Limiting Beliefs
Limiting beliefs are beliefs that no longer serve you in your life.
If you want to lose weight but hold the belief that you are not worthy of losing weight or that weight loss is impossible for you, those beliefs no longer serve you, they are no longer needed.
The tricky part about beliefs is that they are usually kept on a subconscious level, meaning, we are not always aware of the beliefs we have that are holding us back.
You’re not going to have that lightbulb flashing moment where all of your limiting beliefs jump out at you and yell and scream about how they’ve been holding you back from living your best life this whole time.
But don’t worry, there’s a simple trick you can use to identify your limiting beliefs in all areas of your life.
Look at the areas of your life that you want to change or you want to look different.
Then ask yourself, what do I need to believe in order for this to be true in my life?
Let’s take money for example because there are a million and one emotions attached to money, we all want more of it but most of us tend to have conflicting beliefs and actions associated with it.
On a conscious level, you want to make more money but you’re always feeling stuck, your bank accounts look like the wild wild west with tumbleweeds blowing through them and the less money that comes in, the more your love-hate relationship with money grows.
Think about the beliefs you have to have for that to be your reality.
Money is hard to make.
Money = fighting = pain = being left alone.
People that have money are not good people.
I am not worthy of having money.
These beliefs are going to be different for everyone and you’re going to have to really dig to understand the things you were told and the situations you saw as a child surrounding money.
Again, think back to the people that raised you and get very clear on what their beliefs are.
Another way to identify which beliefs are holding you back the most, is to ask yourself, “if these beliefs were eliminated, how would my life change?”
This can help you get very clear on which beliefs to focus on changing and rewriting.
3. How to Change your Beliefs to get what You Want
Alright, you know how your beliefs are created and you know how to identify them but how in the world do you change them??
The easiest and most applicable way to change a limiting belief is to simply create a new belief that better serves you.
Create a belief/statement/thought that will help you get closer to changing an aspect of life you want to be different.
This usually begins with the opposite of your limiting belief:
Money is hard to make —> Money is easy for me to make
Losing weight is impossible for me —> Losing weight is easy and fun for me
I am not good at ___ —–> ____ is so easy for me
These are called affirmations and when said over and over and over again with real feeling, they turn into a belief and that belief turns into truth in your physical life.
What you want to remember when creating new beliefs is to avoid using the word, “don’t” because your subconscious mind is very literal and doesn’t recognize the word “don’t”.
So if you’re saying “I don’t want to be broke” you’re subconscious is only hearing, “I want to be broke”.
The complete opposite of what you want.
Not only that, but what you focus on, you create more of, so choose to focus on the things you do want in a positive manner rather than what you don’t want.
Another tip to remember is that these affirmations/new beliefs may feel like a joke at first.
It may take you some time to even begin to believe them.
You can add the phrase, “I am choosing to believe,” then insert your affirmation and by saying this, you feel like less of an imposter because you might not believe it right here in this instant but you are choosing to believe something new.
Repeat these new beliefs over and over again until you do in fact believe them.
If you’re ready to eliminate these limiting beliefs much more quickly and effortlessly, I use NLP techniques (Nero-Linguistic Programming) as an NLP practitioner in my 1-on-1 sessions that remove the blocks that are holding you back in life. You can learn more about booking a session here.
Your Beliefs Create your Reality. Period.
Whatever you’re thinking and believing on the inside, will be projected into your physical world.
If you want to change your life, start with your beliefs.
If you want to learn how to use your beliefs and The Law of Attraction to get more of what you want in life, read this post.